This past Sunday I didn’t attend church anywhere. It wasn’t that I wanted to just stay home. I wanted to be in church. My husband was speaking at one of the churches we partner with but because I had already heard that sermon three times (at different churches) I decided to stay home and watch the Spanish church we attend on Youtube. It was a special anniversary service and even though I was not able to attend I was blessed watching it. For the record Dale was not offended I chose not to go with him.
Then in the afternoon I was feeling off so I ended up staying home again from our English speaking church. I didn’t want to get to church and end up being sick while I was there, and then be in agony unable to to go home. Instead I decided to watch Life Church online. The sermon was about holding grudges and being over it. I have to say I felt very convicted listening to the sermon. It was like God was shining a flashlight on my heart and the ugly attitude that lied within was exposed.
The text that from the message on Sunday afternoon was
Proverbs 19: 11 (TPT)A wise person demonstrates patience, for mercy means holding your tongue. When you are insulted, be quick to forgive and forget it, for you are victorious when you overlook an offense.
in the NLT it reads like this..
A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook and offense.
I sat down with my Journal the Word Bible and wrote notes all over the page. I knew I needed to repent of my bad attitude and have a change of heart, a change of perspective. I knew I needed to let certain things go and not let them get to me. Not make such a big deal about petty little things.
A couple things happened the week or so before that had me frustrated and annoyed. Because we are living in a new development there is always construction going on. There is a house going up right beside us. Infact the house is built flush up against our house. One day one of the construction workers parked in front of our garage. Now we never use our garage to park in because it is a pain in behind to open the garage door and shut it. There is no remote so we have open it manually. So we park outside like most of our neighbours. But what if we were parked inside? How would we get out with them parked right there!? That’s our spot!
Then there are a couple of the construction workers that parked their motor bikes right outside our gate. All. The.Time. We would open our gate in the morning and there they were. Infront of our house. They still park there. Everyday. I am not sure why it bothered me so much but it really rattled me. Got under my skin. When we came home after a day of teaching Bible classes, I would ask Dale to park up to the gate so they couldn’t park there in the morning. I know. Horrible of me. Especially when we had just been sharing about the Lord with the children. I guess part my annoyance was because it meant that we had to park in the mud that was all over the road from the rain and empty lot on the other side of us. Or we had to park across the from the house…but still. It wasn’t that big of a deal. Not really. Not in the light of eternity. It wasn’t worth getting all bent out of shape over it. I don’t actually think they knew they were irritating me though, but if they did…how would that kind of grumpy attitude be showing them God’s love? Especially since one of the guys asked Dale if he was a Pastor!
The speaker Craig Groeschel encouraged everyone to be over it and not to replay it, not to rehearse it or go over it in your mind. He said not to let something take you off course of what you are called to do, to make a conscious decision to let it go. Don’t let it get you down. Stay above it. Also he said that no one ever changed the world by walking around bitter. He admonished to stay above it and love through it. He said that it was God honoring to let it go.
Yet, how often do we rehash things? I know I do anyway…all the time. Someone says something that hurts us or does something that ticks us off and in our mind and we go over it over and over again. We replay things in our mind and think of what we should have said or done differently. We let things simmer. Maybe it’s an unmet expectation, Maybe we were not included in something. Maybe we see something inappropriate on social media. Maybe we are cut off in traffic or the grocery store by someone else who wants to be first in line. Maybe someone broke a promise. Whatever it is, whatever is dragging us down or holding us back…it’s time to just let it go.
Ephesians 4:31,32 MSG Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk. Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you.
I Peter 4:8 ESV Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.
Ecclesiastes 7:21, 21 Do not take to heart all things that people say, lest you hear your servant cursing you. Your heart knows that many times you yourself have cursed others.